Formulation of a positive goal will lead to sustainable results. 4. The goal should be environmentally friendly, ie its achievement should not spoil the lives of those around the client people, not to destroy the system of its relations with them. R. Bandler tells about a woman who as a result of counseling psychologist quit smoking, after which it abruptly began to deteriorate relations with her husband. It was found that smoking was in the family kind of ritual communion. Both of them were often busy, but when they wanted to smoke, they gathered together in the kitchen, and it was the perfect excuse to talk to each other. To make positive changes did not lead to negative consequences must be to take care of environmental results could be adjusted to the image of the desired result.
5. Finally, the stated goal must be to the client, not the object of his grandmother, friends, teachers, parents or counselors. The fourth stage of counseling is devoted to finding alternative solutions. The fact that the cause of almost all psychological problems – the lack of behavioral flexibility. As a rule, a person can not resolve a problem situation because it does not have the choice of the required number of solutions.
Psychologists call it "tunnel vision syndrome." Man looks at the problem through the prism of one output, as a rule, ineffective. Expand the scope of view of the problem, to help people find a lot of options out of the problem situation and choose the best – the task of a psychologist at this point. And finally, fifth, final stage of psychological consultation – a compilation of information and preparation of the client to move from intention to action. Sometimes it happens that the person receiving counseling psychologist, knows what to do, but for one reason or another does nothing.